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40 hours of torment

June 24, 2013
The Daily News

EDITOR:

I can't speak for all the Bible-thumping, gun-toting, freedom lovers out there, but I am going to share some thoughts regarding the tragedies of school shootings.

I am going to approach this topic from a different angle.

Most people have probably never considered what I am about to tell you. This material may be considered extremely offensive to a lot of people. If you do not think that you can handle it, you might want to look away.

Most of us probably know someone that lived in the dark ages.

I am talking about the time in history when the feel-good movement and things like that did not exist. Many of us probably know someone that was bullied in school, during the dark ages, when it was acceptable to fight back.

Some of us might even know someone who fought back against a bully or was even laid out by somebody that they were bullying.

Back in these dark ages, typically, a kid would not face any consequences for fighting back against a bully.

As astonishing as it may sound, when the victim fought back, the bully problem usually came to a screeching halt.

The feel-good movement came along, and the anti-bullying movement eventually became mainstream.

The anti-bullying movement is just another form of diplomacy. I will say that diplomacy has its place, but it is only effective when you are dealing with reasonable people.

Typically, bullies are not reasonable people. If they were, they would probably spend their time doing something productive.

While trying to employ reasonable techniques with unreasonable people, we are also telling the kids that they should not fight back against a bully.

"Just tell somebody about it, and they will take care of it for you" seems to be the common train of thought here.

We also tell them that they would be no different than the bully if they fight back. I have news for you.

This does not work in the real world.

A school yard bully basically attacks other kids in some way or another.

Let me ask you something. If someone tries to attack you, are you going to try to talk it over with that person?

Absolutely not.

You are going to fight back and do everything possible to defend yourself, or at least, I hope you would. Since you would not try to reason with or negotiate with an attacker, why do we force the kids to do it?

There is something seriously wrong with that picture.

Do not misunderstand me. I am, by absolutely no means, condoning these tragic atrocities.

I condemn such actions with every ounce of my being.

Here is where I am going with this.

If I am not mistaken, many of these tragedies can be traced back to some form of bullying. By forcing children to use diplomacy as the only means to deal with bullies, we are basically sentencing them to 40 hours of torment - every week.

The human mind is a strong thing, but it is also fragile.

By sentencing a kid to 40 hours of torment, every week, all that kid can do is bottle up his or her fear and anger.

Bottling up emotions has never ended well. It is not hard to figure out that diplomacy will only intensify the bully's retaliation.

Even a little kid can figure that one out.

Being locked in a torture chamber, which is basically what the anti-bullying movement does, will take its toll on a person, after a period of time.

Going through such treatment will usually cause a number of adverse effects on a person's sanity.

When someone is pushed over the edge, things get ugly, real fast.

When kids were still allowed to fight back against someone that was bullying them, the concept of a school shooting was nearly unheard of.

Maybe we need to reinstate some of that old-fashioned thinking.

Anthony Joseph Schabel

Niagara, Wis.

 
 

 

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