Golden K member Bill Roberts with daughter Kathy Wilson who spoke on foster families.

By JOAN JOUPPI

For The Daily News

KINGSFORD — Monday morning at the First Presbyterian Church in Kingsford was buzzing with chatter as the Golden K seniors began filtering into the fellowship hall. It seemed as though everyone had exciting stories to tell about their weekend activities. Since Nov. 15 had passed by, there was at least one story of a successful hunter who broke the “dry spell” of no deer for seven years jinx, bringing home, of course, a seven-pointer.

Now the rest of that camp has its challenge set.

It was clear to the piano player and the director there was not going to be a lot of singing at this meeting, so the next best thing to do is join in with all the conversations, as they also had stories to tell. However, the group always manages to fit the “Welcome Song” in for guests, Kathy Arnold, director of R.S.V.P. and guest speaker Kathy Wilson.

Mary Jane Nelson stashed her winnings from the 50-50 drawing in her “rainy day” sock and Happy Birthday was sung for Sandra Soltis, Nov 20, and Mary Bugni, Nov. 22. Happy anniversary to Al and Phyllis Galeazzi on Nov 27.

Bill Roberts, as chairman for November, had the pleasure of introducing his youngest daughter, Kathy Wilson, as speaker. Having been a foster parent for many years, Wilson shared her story with the group. The Foster Care program covers Dickinson, Delta and Menominee counties, with about 140 children in this three-county area cared for through this program.

There are four licensed homes, with many others available but not licensed. There are several other organizations working with foster parents, all with the same goal in mind — what works best for the child. A home atmosphere is primary for placement. Training is necessary for the foster parents, as well as the usual paperwork and the cooperation of the entire family.

The Wilson family — mom, dad and their own five children — opened their hearts and home to other children whose needs are as varied as a snowflake. No two are alike. Many come with needs and issues that have to be overcome with trust, security and an unconditional love.

The ages vary from a few months to teens. The experience of taking in other people’s children who have been in dysfunctional situations most of their lives — giving these children a warm, loving, safe environment to grow in and exposing their own family to strangers with problems — is a total leap of faith. Some situations are more problematic than others and it was a learning experience for all.

Seeing their foster child deal with situations in their home, school, courts, lawyers, Intermediate School Districts, state Department of Health and Human Services, counseling when needed– all from strangers — as well as parents who are dealing with their own problems gives the foster parents a look into the trauma these children have to face. For the child/children to find where they fit into this life is heart-wrenching at times.

Watching them grow and overcome the adversity they started with is heart warming. With the ups outweighing the downs, Wilson’s family adopted two of their foster children and the entire Wilson family couldn’t be happier. They have incorporated a special celebration — a “gotcha day.” Sharing their home, family dynamics and taking the trauma out of young lives proves foster parents are special people.

There are many organizations and resources all working toward one goal: Giving children a chance for a normal family life. Helping parents overcome their problems. Judges decide where the child or children can be placed in a safe, stable environment. Are the parents or caregivers able to maintain stability in their lives? Can families be reunited or should the child be placed in a forever home with a foster family?

The Wilson family, along with friends and extended family members, have incorporated strangers into their family while balancing their own family. It clearly speaks of the unique quality of foster parents.

The fishing pole project is ongoing through the winter. Anyone can donate fishing equipment, poles, reels or other equipment to any Golden K member.

Golden K meets on Monday mornings and are open to all. Meetings are at 10 a.m. ,with the program to begin at 10:30 a.m.

The Golden Throats will sing at Evergreen.