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Dear Annie: Telling someone she stinks

Dear Annie: I have a very sensitive office environment problem. My office mate smells, and the smell permeates the entire office and even gets stuck to my clothes. And Im not the only one who can smell it. Other co-workers have noticed it, too. I think its a matter of not changing clothes enough or not bathing well or often enough.

She is such a nice lady that I really cant mention it to her. It would hurt her feelings. Because our office has only five employees in it (were out in the boondocks), we have very limited office space. So theres no possibility of moving desks and putting more space between her and the rest of us. And no air freshener or scent diffuser weve tried works. What can be done? Again, shes very nice and friendly, and I dont want to hurt her. Stinky Outside Seattle

Dear Stinky Outside Seattle: This is the sort of delicate personnel matter best handled by the human resources department. Talk to whoever is in charge of HR for your company, even if that person isnt located in the same office.

If you dont have an HR department, then try talking to your co-worker yourself. At the end of the day, ask your co-worker whether she has a minute before she leaves.

Go into a private space, and say something to the effect of: It may just be my sensitive nose, but Ive noticed theres sometimes a strong smell near your desk. I just wanted to make you aware of the issue, because I hope you would do the same for me. Its going to be awkward no matter which way you slice it. But telling her is a noble act.

Youre bearing a minute of discomfort to spare her further embarrassment and your co-workers further unpleasantness. Do be sure to have this talk at the end of the day, as telling her earlier, when she cant do anything about it, would be cruel.

Also, as this is the second letter Ive received this month about a co-workers olfactory offenses, a public service announcement: To anyone thinking of skipping that pre-work shower, please dont.

Dear Annie: Im just a normal adult who is sick and tired of hearing the F-word out in public. Why is this word permitted at public events, at the shopping mall and in movie theaters? When my grandchildren were very young, we had this happen at a baseball game. The person behind us repeated the word many times, until finally my husband politely asked the person to stop. Luckily for us, he wasnt attacked for the request which is always a concern these days.

Can we start a national campaign to stop the use of the F-word in public? Heres an idea: If you wouldnt say a certain thing in church, then dont say it in public. I hope others will agree with this idea, and perhaps the security guards at public events could help out. Grandma

Dear Grandma: I couldnt find any data to verify the claim, but I also have noticed more people using the F-word in recent years.

It may be because many popular shows are on cable or streaming platforms and therefore not subject to the strict censorship laws that govern network TV, allowing the shows to have a free-for-all with the cussword, which may have trickled down into society. But we cant just blame TV. In any case, lets keep it clean, folks.

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